Sunday, October 9, 2011
Advice Illustrated: Grow up!
Prudie says he was wrong to marry her if he knew they were so incompatible. He needs to press her to reestablish their relationship. He needs to think of the risk of exposure, arrest, etc. while usig prostitutes. And, oh, STIs.
I would say that by refusing to allow you to have sex with her, she's giving you approval to get it elsewhere. But why are whores "more honorable" than an affair? An affair can be just about sex. and it would be far better with respect to STIs. And about that little detail: if you're sleeping with other people, she has an absolute right to know. How about this message: "Dear, I want our marriage to work, but I have legitimate needs you refuse to meet. Either we work on this, or you are putting me in a situation where I will have to look elsewhere. If you can't bear that idea, we will have to divorce. If you can bear it, you will have to decide if you want to continue to have sex with each other, knowing that I am sleeping with others and potentially putting you at risk.
Prudie is rightly amazed that a 24yo gets a "birthday weekend" with two parties. But she's not even inviting you, she's telling you where to go and how to spend your money, which you're under no obligation to do. Why do you want to be friends with these people? It would be hard to uninvite her crashpadding, but you don't have to go to her grand drunken affair. Prudie agrees.