Thursday, January 26, 2012
Letter 1 is from a 50yo wife of a brain-damaged husband. She doesn't want to leave him, because the burden would just be on her children. But she misses sex, etc. Can she take a lover? Of course. But be discreet. Prudie agrees, in a more enlightening fashion.
“My husband and I are happily married with two children. Over the years, my husband's sister and her husband have struggled with infertility. They finally asked if I would act as a surrogate. My husband and I did not take this lightly, but we decided to help them. Last year I gave birth to a lovely daughter. I lost the weight easily after my first two pregnancies but have been struggling after this one and am embarrassed about my slow progress. My sister-in-law has started making insensitive remarks about my body that would be rude in any circumstances but cut more deeply given that I gained this weight while pregnant with her daughter. At Thanksgiving, she said I’d need to work out extra hard to make up for what was on my plate. At a family birthday, she suggested I get only a small slice of cake. What, if anything, should I say to my sister-in-law when she makes these hurtful remarks? If she asked me to be a surrogate again, I’d refuse because of her attitude. But would that be selfish?”
The question asked is: “would that be selfish?”. The answer is: “no”. The follow-up is: “did you really want an answer to that particularly dumb question, or did you want to bitch about your SIL?”
She's a bitch. Here's what you say the next time she makes a comment: “It's true I got fat bearing your child. It's a pity God hates you so much he made you a barren sterile hag” or “a dried-up crone with a uterus full of twigs”, if you'd rather.
Thursday, January 19, 2012
I say, skip the wedding, and skip the relationship, you insecure pathetic lamester.
What does Prudie say? She says to suck it up, get modern, and go to the wedding.
A police report? And...? Charges? A trial? As Prudie says, this is a social event, but you can't have him without her, so he can't be the best man, or even a guest. I agree. When you marry a crazy, there are repercussions, such as being a social pariah. (But I think there's much more to this story and wouldn't mind hearing the crazy's version.)
I have little empathy with people who have millions of dollars to waste on wine, women and song. These are literally rich people's problems. Prudie says LW and hubbie are not his parents' keepers. I agree.
Thursday, January 12, 2012
He can help it, and this is abuse, or even rape. Prudie says he may have a sleep disorder. But if not, it's time for urgent counseling. I'm inclined to say that if there's no medical cause, DTMFA.
Prudie says to go to Planned Parenthood to learn the legal options, etc., adding: "Despite inflammatory political rhetoric, the mission of Planned Parenthood is not to perform abortions, but to provide the crucial services that prevent unwanted pregnancies." Dear Prudie: the opponents of abortion know that, and don't care. They are against contraception, too. They are against anything that allows women to control their bodies and their reproduction. Cf Rick Santorum. HERE. And alas, she'll have to inform her husband.
Girls (and guys): Belts and braces! Contraceptives AND condoms. (And let's give a hand for Obama's refusal to accept medical recommendations re Plan B. Thank goodness Americans have a progressive president in the White House.)
HERE. It's too boring. Oh, alright, but I can't be bothered to summarize:
I host a book club at my apartment. At a recent gathering one woman brought a pair of boots she was planning to return to the store. I don’t know why she brought them, since the store would have been closed by the time we finished. I did not see the boots, but she asked me for a paper bag to put them in. The day after the book club, she emailed saying she had left the boots at my house and wanted to get them. I searched my apartment and couldn’t find a grocery bag with the boots anywhere. I emailed the group to see if someone accidentally picked them up, and no one responded. I told her that they may have inadvertently been recycled since we were using the same type of grocery bags to collect bottles and cans that evening. I also suggested she may have left with them and misplaced them afterward. She is adamant that they went missing at my place and has hinted that I should pay for them. Do I owe her for the cost of the boots?
Prudie says to ignore her hinting, and if she asks outright, to calmly refuse. Yeah.
Thursday, January 5, 2012
Video letter is from a woman whose friend has a precocious 9yo son. He's an obnoxious manipulative boor. I say, when he behaves badly to you, leave.
Prudie compares the kid to Stewie Griffin and suggests seeing her BFF without the kid.
Letter 3 is from a crazy lesbian who is letting her girlfriend influence her with regard to LW's "relationship" with her crazy, racist, homophobic estranged father. I say: tell the GF to stuff it. This biological sample donor was not part of your life for some 20 years, and won't ever be a part of your life. Period.
Letter 4 is from a well-educated dummy who wonders if the low-income applicant to his alma mater is really low income. That, dear sir, is the role of the financial aid procedure, not amateur google-detectives.