Advice Illustrated; cheating harlots

If's from HERE.

Letter 1 1s from a cheating harlot. Prudie tells her she's a cheating harlot. I also tell her she's a cheating harlot. I would push the legal action angle: if you're gonna ruin your relationship with the current BF, you might as well take this creep down. (But does she have the written proof of the extorsion?)

Video letter is from a future cheating harlot. Prudie tells her not to cheat. So do I, as I observe that Prudie is pretty hot when she gets riled and self-righteous (and right).

It could be so much worse: Imagine this was the fruit of your loins

Letter 2 is from a woman who feels intellectually inferior to her brilliant son. Prudie says to stop worrying, and gives some OK advice on how to manage. I suggest reading the recent advice to the woman whose BF, family and friends are all so much more successful than her.

Letter 3 is from a woman whose husband wants to bring his 6-year-old from a previous marriage on their European honeymoon (Europe! Ooo la la!). Prudie says this is no honeymoon, and the inadequate mother/ex issue needs to be dealt with. I say, if you don't want the kid, you shouldn't have married the guy. But it's true this is no honeymoon.

Letter 4 is upset that a private matter involving their child was broadcast on Facebook by a well-meaning relative. Prudie says to nicely explain to relative that LW doesn't want her private business to be a subject of public knowledge. I say Facebook is the devil.

Advice Illustrated: Yeah. Duh.

The orig is HERE.

Letter Writer 1 is a married man who has rented a basement flat in a woman's house in another city where he works most of the week. One day she appeared in his place watching him naked in the bathroom. She now comes by and does TMI on him. What should he do? Apologize? Move?
Prudie says, in a flurry of double entendres, that he remind her of his expectation of privacy. And tell his wife what's going on, if he hasn't.
I say, yeah. Duh.

The Video Letter is from a woman who has just learned that her BF (most wonderful man in the world) has untreated bipolar disorder. Prudie says he was wrong to keep this secret, which impacts on her, and wrong to go off his meds without trying to find a better solution with his doctor.
I say, yeah. Duh.

LW 2 is the luckiest man in the world, whose wife forgave him an affair and adopted the daughter born to his mistress. The daughter's 8, and knows that her mother is not her biomom. But other people want more details. Prudie says it's nobody else's business.
I say, yeah. Duh. And how did these people learn this info? Blabbermouth. If you tell them this much, they will of course expect more.

LW3 is a "dude" who wants a tattoo to "honor" his mother's parents. His mother objects to tattoos, in a very theatrical, self-threatening way. Prudie says she hates tattoos, too (so do I... fortunately BF also hates self-mutilation), so she makes the case against them. And she makes the case against this being a way to "honor" his grandparents.
I say, yeah. Duh. But if he does really, really want to do this, screw what his mom thinks. And if she's willing to cut her throat over this? She's a crazy the world is well rid of. Or a person with problems bigger than your "tasteful" tattoo.

LW4 is from a person whose coworker eats oatmeal and tunafish every day at her desk. The odor is unbearable, as are other behaviors of coworker. Prudie reminds us that food used to be eaten in appropriate places and times. Prudie suggests language to speak to the wcoworker.
If the question is "should I say something to my coworker", may answer is "yeah, duh". And I remember when I weighed in on the subject in an earlier column, saying that here in France we consider eating at your desk gross, disgusting, and unhygienic, I was attacked by y'all who love eating at your desk so you read DP. But I now have Prudie on my side, so I'll say it again: eat in a restaurant, a cafeteria, a breakroom, not at your desk.

Advice Illustrated: Holiday-free edition

Prudenza does it HERE.

Letter Writer 1 is a mother who does naked nude barebottomed unclothed washing sessions with her husband and 5-year-old daughter. Dad's starting to get uncomfortable with the nuditity. Prudie says if he's uncomfortable, it's time for bath time to become girl time. I say: just how does the daughter open a locked door (while the parents are pooping)? Otherwise, I'm fine with the answer.

Video letter is from a young guy who wants to make other people pay for furnishing his great new apartment (the one he is so proud of paying for, but forgot to budget for furnishing). Creep.

LW2 is from a woman whose life and marriage are suffering from the burden of caring for her aged parents. Prudie says it's time to get them to a home. I say: yes.

LW3 is from a guy whose wife is due to give birth at the same time his sister is getting married 8 hours away. Sister is a bitch. Prudie says that this is a happy occasion, and if sister says one nasty thing, to hang up or leave the room. I say you should tell the whole family that sister gave you an ultimatum: either wife has an abortion or they're out of her life.

LW4 is from a soon-to-be-former grad student who comes across as a high-maintenance prima donna in mock interviews. But she's not, really she's not! Prudie says she might be, and to get more practice. I say, just what kind of advice was LW expecting here?

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Originals HERE.

Boy is this a sad, sad week.

LW1 doesn't derive pleasure from sex. Prudie tells her what to do. She does manage to disparage the BF on the basis of nada.

LW2 is a cougar whose sex partner won't marry her due to age difference. Prudie says she has to make a choice, but why not enjoy the hot sex for the moment. I don't see what the issue is. Are they living together? That would be something to consider. If they have great sex, are best friends, love each other and are living together, what more does she really want?

LW3 is needy. I will simply quote from Prudie's fine response:

Your letter made me want to peel you off, and I don't even know you, so imagine how your boyfriend is going to feel when he realizes your need for attention is endless, your capacity infinite. You already know you are punishing your nice current boyfriend in part for the behavior of your previous lousy one (whom you hung around with despite how badly he treated you) and making both of you miserable with your anxiety.

Momentos made from cremains

LW4 is from a divorcée engaged to a widower who had the affrontery to place a photo and miniurn on the side table. Prudence is herself the spouse of a widower, and votes for shutting up. I say that LW is wrong to want a "fresh start" without any presence of "Cynthia" (this is a strange choice of name: we all know that first wives are named "Rebecca"). But the ashes are waaaay too much. Photos, drawings, paintings? Fine. Cremains? Not fine.

Advice Illustrated

From: ://www.slate.com/id/2283596/pagenum/all/#p2

Letter 1 is from a mom who likes her easy-to-manage son more than his older and more difficult sister. Is she evil? Prudie gives some probably-OK advice.
My take: you're a bad mother. Now what?

Letter 2 is from a former druggie slut whose brother and SIL keep talking about her former slutty ways. Their parents won't get involved. Prudie says: "Among your brother's offenses are reading your e-mail, making its content known to everyone, booting you from his wedding party, and spreading gossip about your personal life." She also advises getting LW's pastor in the loop to tell off brother.
I say: I wouldn't bother, and just take Prudie's last bit of advice about leaving the room whenever they open their trap. Also say things like: "you put your cock in that woman's twat, and you think you're in a position to give me lessons about MY behavior?"

Letter 3 is from a father whose wife thinks her future DIL isn't good enough for their precious, beautiful, talented, intelligent, mature, and otherwise generally far-above-average baby boy. By the end of an excessively long answer, Prudie gets to the point: if he has to choose, he'll choose his GF over his mother. Wise mothers don't make their darling baby boys choose.

Letter 4 is worth reading live:

Dear Prudence,
A few years ago, my best friend was going through a rough divorce and said she would never remarry. I told her she would change her mind, so she bet me $1,000 that I was wrong. Needless to say, she remarried within a year. Her new husband knew about the bet, and when they got back from their honeymoon he wrote me a check. I debated for a while about cashing it but thought a bet is a bet and cashed it. I've always felt weird for taking the money and want to pay it back. How do I do that, three years later?
—All Bets Are Off

Dear All,
This is why bets between friends are best if the stakes are a steak dinner and not a month's rent. Write your friend a card, enclose a check for $1,000, and say it makes you really happy to acknowledge her third anniversary to the love of her life—a man who's willing to write a check for a foolish obligation—by canceling out her payment for your prescient prediction.
—Prudie


I have nothing better to say. I would have cashed it too, and then written a new check for the same amount. After deducting the cost of the wedding present to the happy couple.

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Letter 1 is from a woman whose wonderful boyfriend likes anal, and says it's a deal breaker. She doesn't like it. Prudie says she should dump him, because he's evil for waiting a whole five months before telling her. Oh, and she makes a lot of butt jokes.
I say Prudie is again going to get in trouble with the "fetish" crowd. Except, of course, that anal is not a fetish: it's part of the repertoire. And Prudie, each partner doesn't have to enjoy each sex act equally.

The video letter is from a woman whose husband's siblings keep their childhood stuff permanently stored in her hubbie's childhood home in which he and she live. Prudie says to give them a warning that their stuff is leaving, one way or another.
I say, where is the husband in this? His siblings, his problem to deal with. But, yes, Prudie is right.

Letter 2 is from a young woman who is pregnant. Her partner's mother wants to pay off LW's student loans to help them out, but LW's older, childless future SIL is furious, accusing her of getting pregnant on purpose to curry favor. LW doesn't want to offend the bitch. Prudie says to take the money and push.
I say, what is LW supposed to do? Forego children so as to not make her future SIL jealous? Ignore the bitch. And yes, get your finances in order (and use birth control please!).

Letter 3 is a perplexing letter from a woman with an evil stepmother. I'll spare you the inplausible details. Prudie says to accept her father's overtures, but be wary.
I say I don't understand her story. If her father wanted to finance her studies, why didn't that happen? Why wouldn't she contact her father directly? But now that it's over, I really wouldn't bother with this spermdude.

Letter 4 is from a woman who has regular guests to her home who don't know when to leave. Prudie gives some advice.
I say, did you really need to write about this? See Miss Manners HERE.

Advice Illustrated

Letter 1 is from a person whose sister is dating a registered sex offender. Sister says he's innocent, but research shows he's not, or at least that he's not being truthful with sister. LW doesn't want BF around, to protect the kiddies. Sister says this ain't fair. Prudie says better safe than sorry, and make sure sister knows she's been sold a line.
I say that although I'm opposed to sex offender hysteria, here it seems clear that there's a choice between children really being harmed, or hurting your sister's feelings. Guess who wins?
And yet... he says he plead guilty to protect his family. And research shows that he plead guilty after his sister made a suicide attempt. Which may or may not have meant he was guilty. I could imagine her trying to commit suicide because she realized she made a false accusation and didn't know how to get out of it. And if so, he could consider even a good lawyer bad if the lawyer let him plead guilty despite being innocent.

Video letter is from a person who attends musicals with a friend. Friend sings or hums during the musical numbers. Prudie says he should tell her to shut up.
So do I. Duh. But I wouldn't be threatening elbows. I'd try a more Judith Martinian tack: "Darling, I know you must not realize your singing along. I find myself doing that sometimes, the music is so delightful. Please give me a nudge if you ever find me doing it; I know you'd want me to do the same for you."

Letter 2 is from a woman who gave her MIL a nice but inexpensive Xmas gift. MIL gave LW an expensive gift, and has now called LW a cheapskate and a dolt (for not knowing that MIL is allergic to cheap or something). MIL even wants LW to return her gift! Prudie goes into the "if this behavior is odd, MIL might be senile" shtick.
I say what Smag says. Return the gift, and have no further contact with this individual. She is dead to you (and as she has decided not to be your mother-in-law, she has no connection with any children you may have now or in future). And again, WHERE IS THE HUSBAND????? And no, Prudie, he doesn't think this behavior is out of the ordinary for her, he's just "confused". He's confused because he's a pussy who doesn't know what to do, which is to grow a pair and deal with the bitch rather than leaving his wife to ask advice from some online advice lady.

Letter 3 is from a person whose coworked got fired because he can't deal with people. She thinks he's Asperger's. Should she tell him? Prudie says yes.
I say, if you care about him and his situation, of course you should. Maybe you're the one with Asperger's?

Letter 4 is from a person who have been (probably fairly) accused of cheating at high-stakes poker. What should LW do? Prudie says LW needs to tell friend that friend is no longer going to be playing because he's been accused of cheating.
I agree with Prudie, and with her wonderment that LW wants to be friends with someone he thinks has stolen from him.